Changing your mindset for success is not such a hard thing to do. It is the key to all of this life’s successes, yet many people will still choose to stay in the opposite state of a mindset of failure. Or is it that, they don’t really know that they hold the key to their own success?


Creating a successful mindset

This is the very first step towards changing your mindset for success. You may not know it, but your thought pattern influences everything in your life – your relationships, your confidence, your creativity, even your view about the world.

The difference between success and failure is your mindset. Simple. You may work as hard as you want, put in crazy hours, but if your thought pattern is not consistently in alignment with success, you will not see any worthwhile differences in the course of your life. It’s called stagnation. You don’t want that do you?

Do not think that it’s very hard for you, ten years from now, to find yourself at the same level you are at right now. The thing is, we all desire for growth, and we can have it, if only we take a few simple measures to change that.


“Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning” Benjamin Franklin


Steps to success

Do you have a vision?

Do you have a dream? not those that you get when you go to sleep at night, we all have those. I mean, a VISION about your life. What is it that you want out of this life? are you content with where you are right now? what is it that you would like to change about your life? is it your finances? better relationships?

All the above and more are important questions you need to ask yourself and answer them honestly. They constitute a having a vision.

You need to figure out what you really want and be very clear about it. Tony Gaskins said that…


“If you don’t build your dreams, then someone will hire you to build theirs”


You will follow and help fulfill someone else’s dream if you don’t create your own vision. You will cheer someone else on as they go out and make their dreams a reality. You will be their manpower, their labor, their personal 9-5 assistant so that they can cruise around the world living the life of their dreams.

Is that what you really want? Sadly, a very big population of the earth spend their whole lives knowingly or unknowingly helping other people fulfill their dreams.


Step 1 – Create your own vision board.


This is a list of goals that you want to achieve. You can write them down on a notebook. Write every little and big thing that you want to achieve and include the timelines that you want to achieve them.

i.e. You can have 3 columns – short term goals, medium term goals and long term goal – those that you think will take longer to achieve. Longer could be one year depending on what kind of goal it is.

short term goals – 1-6 months

medium term goals – 1-12 months

and long term goal – More than 1 year


Do not be afraid to dream big. You can achieve anything you put your mind to. You are not any different from Bill Gates, or Mark Zuckerburg. You can achieve success in your very own way. Many people fail for wanting to be like other people. It’s called being a copy. YOU ARE AN ORIGINAL, DON’T DIE A COPY.

Do not be afraid of failure either. We learn through failures. Use them as lessons and stepping stones instead of letting them take you down. And when you get down, don’t remain there. Purpose to rise up everytime you fall. founder failed at everything else before He finally found His success.

-Abraham Lincoln tried countless times and failed before He became President of the United States.


Step 2 – Start cultivating a positive mental attitude


To cultivate means to foster or to nature the growth of something. You have to start to deliberately plant positive thoughts in your head. For every negative thought that pops up in your head, counter it with a positive affirmation.

Start thinking YOU CAN whenever you think you can’t. Even if you don’t believe that you can. The brain does not really know that you can’t! it’s you who tells it what you can and cannot do! Start to trick it that it can, and soon enough it will believe that indeed, it can do anything for you.


Fake it till you make it

Start living, in your mind, the kind of life that you dream of. Don’t go into debt trying to fake a kind of life that is beyond your current means – your mind is there to do that for you.

Take your mind to places it has never been before. Beginning today, only watch or read only about anything that is in alignment with your dreams. Watch youtube videos of grand mansions and big cars if that is your heart’s desire.


The following quotes should leave you very inspired

“The future you see is the future you get.” – Robert G Allen

“Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so shall you become. Your vision is the promise of what you shall one day be; your ideal is the prophecy of what you shall at last unveil.” – James Allen

“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you’ve imagined.” – Henry David Thoreau

“When we are motivated by goals that have deep meaning, by dreams that need completion, by pure love that needs expressing, then we truly live life.” – Greg Anderson

“Reach high, for stars lie hidden in your soul. Dream deep, for every dream, precedes the goal.” – Pamela Vaull Starr

“When you have a dream you’ve got to grab it and never let go.” – Carol Burnett


“What’s the purpose of living if you don’t go after your dreams?” – Samson Reiny


Step 3 – Start looking for inspiring connections


Do not also underestimate the power of a mentor or a role model. People that have been where you are and are now living out their life’s mission.

A mentor does not necessarily have to be someone you know in person. With the internet and social media, there are a lot of inspiring people that you can follow. Will share some of them below.

Drop ALL negative connections, and it doesn’t matter who they are too. Communicate less with them or write them off all the same. Anything or anyone that is a threat to the fulfillment of your dreams does not deserve space in your life.

If it’s a spouse you need to lay down the rules, in a nice way. Start inspiring them against negativity. Begin a new habit of reading positive quotes together. You may be holding the key to the change that is waiting to happen to them. Give it a chance.

What if you put in the time and effort and they don’t change? It is up to you to gauge and decide whom or what really deserves space in your life.


My final thoughts

No one should go through life without realizing their purpose or achieving their dreams. Unlike any other creature on this Earth, we are a unique creation with something even more unique – The Brain. It is the link between living the life of your dreams or not. And the best part about it? It comes free of charge, unlike a motivation book that you have to purchase.

Start utilizing this powerhouse beginning NOW and you will be amazed at the things you thought you will never achieve.

Have I left you feeling inspired? do you have any comments or questions? please share in the comment box below. I will be very happy to hear from you.


  1. Thank you for such inspiring words of encouragement and ideas to help fulfill dreams. My favourite is the fake it tip. I used to say that all the time and the truth be told, IT WORKS!! I think too often we forget about the little wins and can give up too quickly as we pursue new goals and dreams. Never say never and keep putting one foot in front of the other. Thank you again. Everyone needs more of this.

    • Am glad to hear that I have inspired you, Merry. Indeed it’s true, we tend to get carried away by temporary failures and forget the little important milestones we have made. Thank you for reading.

  2. I think my major problem was to “fake it till you make it.” It seemed to violate my integrity. I love your explanation here that it does not sound to violate our integrity. I heard that our body responses to our mind, so if we think about great things or something we want it to happen, our body will ensure to make it happen. So we make our mind to believe that we are wealthy, healthy successful, etc… – and then our mind will do that for us!

    • Yes, Kyoko. faking it till you make it does not mean one goes out and breaks their bank on material things. One should instead continually visualize the kind of life they would like to have until it becomes a reality. Thank you for reading.

  3. “Life changing and inspiring” are just a few words that come to mind when I read this.
    I have a vision for 10 years in my life and it looks good now compared to what I felt last year.
    It’s been a pretty hard year for me but now I have a positive mind set and I am going to stay that way.
    This was a beautiful read and I hope you keep writing more like this.
    Thanks and good luck with your future

    • Hi, Mathew. We can come out of any hard situation with a positive mindset. “It’s not how many times you fall that matters, but how many times you get back up that counts” Thank you for reading.

  4. I love reading this sort of content it gives you direction in your life. In my spare time I read a lot Tony Robins books and it is his insight that has give hope for my future. Great article well written.

  5. What an inspirational article! Thank you! I really needed. I even bookmarked your site and would love to return here for more inspiration. Thank you! I agree what you said in this article. But sometimes it is hard to change the mindset. I am on this journey for a long time, and from time to time I still struggle with many things that are holding me back (fears, anxiety, negative thought, people etc.). Thank you for reminding me! Soon I need to write down my new goals.

    • Hi, Linda! Glad to hear this post has inspired you. Developing a positive mental attitude also does take some practice, it is a new habit you are forming. negative thoughts will always find a way of popping into your mind from time to time, the secret is to counter them with positive affirmations. Do not let negative thoughts hold you back, use them to reassure yourself that YOU CAN, And you will. I wish you much success.

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